Whether in China or in ancient China, marriage is not just a private matter of a couple, but a major event for two families. The ancient Chinese "Book of Rites" said: "(Marriage) fainters, will be the best of the two surnames, on the ancestral temple, and the next to the future." Therefore, the gentleman is heavy."

That is to say, marriage is a big thing that brings two families together and makes each other's relatives. It can not only allow the two parties to serve the ancestral temple, but also cultivate future generations, so that people can benefit, so they have virtue. People pay great attention to this matter.

Marriage in modern society has rarely been "arranged". In ancient times, it was necessary to resort to the channels of "parents' life" and "media-speaking words". If people whose identities are not close, it is difficult to walk together.

For example, in the hit TV series "Army Division": Cao Yu finally chose to be a wife, of course, the little friends who know the story know that this marriage is not happy, but the marriage itself is a sect and a high The union between.

Sima Yi’s servant, hoping to let Sima Yi help introduce the daughter of the neighboring family, live together, and intermarriage between the civilian population and the civilian population. If you are an emperor, but the woman of the civilian population is a queen, it will obviously make people laugh. Not only can it not play a role in stabilizing the political power and consolidating the human heart, but it will also be counterproductive and make people think that there is no decent statement.

This is the "door-to-door" of marriage. This kind of system naturally invites some people to criticize today: Where is freedom of marriage and freedom of love? In order to marry, sacrifice of love and affection, bound our humanity.

It is also said that such a system is an alliance law adopted by the aristocratic hierarchy in order to maintain its own power position. The hierarchy and marriage system of ancient society are really bad. Similar remarks can be exemplified by everyone.

While we admit that such views have some truth, we must also consider such a question: Is the love and marriage system of the ancient society's door-to-door counterparts completely killing humanity? Why does it exist?

The answer to its existence is: limited educational resources. In ancient society, educational resources were limited, so the family of scholar-officials who can read books is naturally different from the average person in terms of cultural quality and lifestyle. The civilian population also has its own way of life.

There is a certain gap between each other. If the gap between the two sides is too large, it is incompatible with life, ideals, and interests. The life after marriage is also difficult to reconcile. Obviously, the purpose of marriage is to make us happy. This is a concept of mate choice, it can also be said to be a custom to avoid risks.

In today's society, the concept of marriage is more or less present in our lives. Whether this kind of ethos needs change and where it will develop in the future is naturally not the main purpose of this article.

But its rationality lies in finding the right partner in the marriage to prepare for the happiness of the marriage life and the family. Similarly, whether or not the door is right is also a factor we must consider.
 

If two people have no close interest and no mutual respect and adjustment, marriage will become an ascetic. When we think so, maybe you can learn to harvest perfect love, happy and fulfilling. Good life for yourself.